I went to church with two of my girlfriends on Sunday and the sermon was about “healing”.  The pastor spoke about the time when a toddler is learning to walk, that he/she will lift up on something, put each step out (making steps), the legs will get wobbly and they’ll fall but as a parent/loved one, the baby will be picked up and will start again.  He talked about similar situations to this, and went to the issue of being hurt.  He went through the scars on his body, about how they hurt when he got them but then they healed.

This made me first think about my scars, but then made me take this thought a bit deeper.  We have all been hurt by objects (scrapes, bruises, bullet wounds, etc.), loved ones, co-workers, role models, etc. but it is up to us to get to the “healed” phase.  I was in a relationship that, when it was over, caused me to have a lot of doubts about being in a committed relationship.  It wasn’t until I took a step back, evaluated a few things, and drew a conclusion (that it was not me, and infidelity was something deeply-rooted in this individual), that I was able to begin “healing.”  I still randomly speak to this individual and his family, and my friends have asked “how do you talk to him?”, “how can you not hate him?”.  The only way I have been able to do this was to take a step back, get over it, and heal, so that I can be myself and not limit myself to a state of distrust and bitterness.

The truth is that, with time and taking myself to a state of forgiveness, I have been able to get to a state of healing/being healed.  Not to take anyone down memory lane, with a past relationship, but I hope that this puts things in perspective, and perhaps helps you take a “hurtful” relationship to a state of healing.

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I am in the planning/start-up phase of a new business venture in the “dating” industry.  While in this phase, I have spent a great deal of time checking out books, magazine articles, audio books, blogs, etc. about dating, relationship-building, marriage, etc.  One of my most recent finds was a book entitled “How to Shop for a Husband” by Janice Lieberman.  The title alone made me have to “check it out”.  It is supposed to be a consumer guide to getting a great buy on a guy.  I haven’t had time to start the book but I am really looking forward to reading what Ms. Lieberman has to say about this.

I will be sure to post updates on tips/hints that I find…who knows she might have a patentable model!

Here’s a few YouTube videos on the subject…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vewh5Ed4uLk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NcwvckLDuLQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwL8NXjT0Y8

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJko7sQhBLE

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I have heard of a “woman’s intuition” since I was a little girl, however it wasn’t until I have grown and matured that I have learned to love and appreciate it.  Ever since I was growing up, my mother always knew when I was lying, hurt, in trouble or hiding things from her.  She was even so good that she would say “I don’t want to going her/doing this, because this will happen”.  Of course, I’d blow that off and whatever she said would happen, would happen!  I just thought it was coincidence.

It wasn’t until I was in a relationship, that I began to trust my intuition.  I had something that would click in my head when I sensed something was “not right”.  Sure enough, it would not be right (regardless of what lie he told).  I really started to respect my judgment and “gut feeling”.  This has even occurred in my professional life.  I decided to “go with my gut” and leave my corporate job to be an entrepreneur.  Many thought I was crazy to do such a thing.  Now, I am SO happy I did so.  The company I used to work for has been impacted dramatically because of the economy and other internal factors.  Many of the friends I had there have moved on and gone to other companies, and the people I do know who work there are not as happy as they were at the time I worked there.  Furthermore, my entrepreneurial ventures are doing wonderful.  I could not ask for anything more then to have the opportunities that I have been allotted…I have absolutely no regrets because I went with my intuition and it was right!

I had a conversation with a girlfriend a few days ago, and she was telling me a story where she didn’t know if she should trust her intuition or not.  Sure enough, the light was shown on the situation and she was right.  That prompted me to write this post.  Ladies, please listen to yourself.  I really believe in this and hope you do too.

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It wasn’t until I was in the airport, headed back home from my 5 day vacation, that I realized how much I really needed my vacation. My mother and I rented an apartment, right off the ocean in Isla Verda in San Juan Puerto Rico. The minute we stepped out of the airport and felt the 85 degree weather (even though it was 2:35 a.m.), I knew it was going to be a great few days. We called and woke the apartment owner, so that we could get the keys to our weekend abode. My first night was filled with hearing the ocean crash against the barrier wall.

The next morning was nothing but sunshine and bikini’s for me. We went to Old San Juan and El Moro. I swear that we turned into “Dora the Explorer’s” on this trip…we went to the rainforest, caves, etc. It wasn’t until the second day, that I realized that I had only spent approx. 1 hour before taking off for the day to do work. My mother told me not to do any work while on the vacation, but I think that I would have been more overwhelmed to not have stayed up with emails. I continued my 45 mins-1 hour of work regime the rest of the vacation, and it worked very well for me.

When sitting in the airport and reflecting on the past few days, I realized how much I needed the mental and physical break. I know that I won’t be able to, and can’t afford, to have frequent vacations like this. I needed to come up with a solution to get a “vacay” on a regular basis. So, on the plane ride back, I took out my Blackberry and “appointmented” (not even a word  my “me/vacay” time. The second Saturday of every month is a development afternoon, where I will visit a museum, attend a workshop, etc. The fourth Saturday of every month will be a pamper day. I will try out local spas and therapeutic service centers ahead of time to make this time for myself. In addition to that, I penciled in 4 hours of reading per week. For 2 hours a week (30 minutes each seating) I will read a marketing/pr/event planning/entrepreneurial book to further develop my career and the other 2 hours will be spent reading a “girly book”. I am SO excited to have put this on my radar.

I am continuing to add things like this into my life. I am now working on adding my spiritual and healthy living components into the picture. Check out these links that suggest ways of inserting “me time” into your life…
http://www.lifeorganizers.com/cm_articles/111_making_time_for_yourself_597.html

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http://www.chronicbabe.com/articles/710/

Tags: Business Divas Diaries, Development, Me Time, Relaxing, San Juan, Tatiana Grant, Vacation
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