I went to church with two of my girlfriends on Sunday and the sermon was about “healing”.  The pastor spoke about the time when a toddler is learning to walk, that he/she will lift up on something, put each step out (making steps), the legs will get wobbly and they’ll fall but as a parent/loved one, the baby will be picked up and will start again.  He talked about similar situations to this, and went to the issue of being hurt.  He went through the scars on his body, about how they hurt when he got them but then they healed.

This made me first think about my scars, but then made me take this thought a bit deeper.  We have all been hurt by objects (scrapes, bruises, bullet wounds, etc.), loved ones, co-workers, role models, etc. but it is up to us to get to the “healed” phase.  I was in a relationship that, when it was over, caused me to have a lot of doubts about being in a committed relationship.  It wasn’t until I took a step back, evaluated a few things, and drew a conclusion (that it was not me, and infidelity was something deeply-rooted in this individual), that I was able to begin “healing.”  I still randomly speak to this individual and his family, and my friends have asked “how do you talk to him?”, “how can you not hate him?”.  The only way I have been able to do this was to take a step back, get over it, and heal, so that I can be myself and not limit myself to a state of distrust and bitterness.

The truth is that, with time and taking myself to a state of forgiveness, I have been able to get to a state of healing/being healed.  Not to take anyone down memory lane, with a past relationship, but I hope that this puts things in perspective, and perhaps helps you take a “hurtful” relationship to a state of healing.

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I am in the planning/start-up phase of a new business venture in the “dating” industry.  While in this phase, I have spent a great deal of time checking out books, magazine articles, audio books, blogs, etc. about dating, relationship-building, marriage, etc.  One of my most recent finds was a book entitled “How to Shop for a Husband” by Janice Lieberman.  The title alone made me have to “check it out”.  It is supposed to be a consumer guide to getting a great buy on a guy.  I haven’t had time to start the book but I am really looking forward to reading what Ms. Lieberman has to say about this.

I will be sure to post updates on tips/hints that I find…who knows she might have a patentable model!

Here’s a few YouTube videos on the subject…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vewh5Ed4uLk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NcwvckLDuLQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwL8NXjT0Y8

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJko7sQhBLE

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I attended a meeting this evening with a group of women who have been friends for over 20 years (almost as long as I am old).  As an outsider, it was so interesting to see that the concept and interaction of “girlfriends” is the same regardless of age.  These women gossiped in the same manner, talked about “fine” dudes the same way we did and essentially had the young, “sex in the city” flair that me and my 20-something year old friends have that we think is unique to us.

It’s funny because I truly believe that 30 is the new 20.  These women (of which are our mothers) wear the same clothes as us, hang at the same spots as us, and have our “homeboy’s” looking at them like they’re just as fly as us.  All I can say is that I am happy with this shift.  I am happy to see women embrace their age with grace, elegance, yet still have a sense of sexiness and feminity.  I also LOVE that women are taking care of themselves physically, mentally, and emotionally.  Looking at them makes me not worry about getting older.

This concept was kind of why I created this blog.  I have been inspired by so many of these diva-like women who can balance successful careers, family, travels, fitness/healthy lifestyles, etc. that I thought I should share the wealth.

Once again, it feels so good to kick back and kick it with your girlfriends.

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